The Power of Women
I wanted to start this blog acknowledging the power of women, especially when we come together to lift each other up. I remembered the quote below by Nikita Gill …
“Fill your life with women that empower you, that help you believe in your magic and aid them to believe in their own exceptional power and their incredible magic too. Women that believe in each other can survive anything. Women who believe in each other create armies that will win kingdoms and wars.” – Nikita Gill
This is the perfect quote for what I want this community to be. One that empowers other women, one in which we support and believe in each other. A place where judgement is left behind. So often we tear each other down, we judge and snicker behind each other’s backs; so often we try to bear the burdens of our lives by ourselves. My hope is to create a community of empathy and understanding.
Growing up I underestimated the importance of having girlfriends, real true girlfriends, probably because I had a hard time letting people in. Sure, I had friends, but truly letting someone in I struggled with – I was afraid of judgment and I feared rejection. To be honest, I still struggle with letting people in and I still often choose to tough things out by myself. When things get hard and I want to reach out to girlfriends, I often don’t and I just wind up feeling even more alone.
Throughout the years I’ve let go of “friendships” after realizing they were not true and real friends. I overheard the under the breath comments one girlfriend made about another friends weight gain, and yet another girls cellulite, I was surprised and shocked. I didn’t know what to say or how to react in the moment, but I wondered quietly to myself what she says about me? It was so superficial and just not the type of friendship I wanted. Why do we as women, feel the need to knock each other down? Why are we always reduced to our looks and weight?
When I think of women empowerment, I can’t help but think of my girlfriend, Andi. We met back in 2005 at an audition for an independent movie, we both got cast and roomed together during filming. An instant bond was made and we have stayed in touch throughout the last 15 years. Months can go by without us talking, but we always pick right back up where we left off. There is no judgment in our relationship, just honesty and support, not only do I love that, but I need that – WE need that, we all need that. Andi, is a woman’s woman, she, without knowing it, has taught me the power of lifting other women up; she sees the truth and beauty of women; she has shown me that it is possible to have friendships without jealousy.
Imagine the power, the force, we as women can be if we build each other up instead of knocking each other down. We are not each other’s enemies. We need each other. Together let’s build a bigger and stronger community of open-minded, honest, women, let’s tear down the walls and unlock our magic!